At last the promised heartache report! To be honest, I am writing just not in a mood about it because I'm happily in love for six months. But before the crisis was so appalling that I with my friends more so than the heartache expert alike, and it probably will stay. And yesterday evening was one of my friends came by to get a Bach flower mixture to put together. Bach flowers have helped him much in the crisis with his wife. Unfortunately he can not do the flower remedies decide to take time over a longer period. Then the wonderful flowers could also help him find a new way and to take leave from a sick relationship. He would like if this was not for any reason. Probably it's just love. Instead, he picks up at regular intervals, then every 3 to 4 months, an acute mixture.
For me it was different. Of course I started with an acute mix, but I was abandoned and betrayed. Since I had no choice but to find me self again and left for the broken relationship easy. The Bach flower remedies helped me: hold on, not to call again, complete with the past to develop anger to think of myself and to put masochistic traits.
I write my story at times, maybe found one or two in it again?
first have just left? An hour ago, 2 days ago?
I first rescue, emergency drop taken. From the hysterical, totally desperate cry-baby they have brought me down. I could not sleep and I slept a lot. The tears dried up and I was, after all of my people back next addressed. If the emergency care alone will not drop for a shutdown of the Gedankenkreisens, at night I still White Chestnut Pure dropwise addition to the tongue.
second He / She was soooo mean to me! The world is soooo unfair!
I have long resisted the other hand, this feeling of Bach flower address. Yes because it corresponded to the truth. But after I am finally very busy, I had to admit that it probably blocks a positive development. I took forgive Willow to be able to. Not only him but also my own stupidity. And lo and behold ... I felt better. I came out of my victim role. Unlike fear, I have not forgiven him for his crimes as well. Only my mind it was better ...
third I will never again find someone else?
Yes, well everyone who was in a serious relationship for him, also has fears ... A la: "He was my only chance of starting a family" or "I'll do without him clearly not alone "... No matter what the fear is always the right Mimulus flower with very specific fears, Aspen that for vague fears, you can not name right.
4th I trust myself to do! I do that before!
Even those feelings came to me. Here Larch helps to strengthen the back bone. I could really feel like I am inside straightened up and put more confidence in my abilities.
5th If one is constantly reminded of the great old days and they want to have again ... . Should be given Honeysuckle into the mix. For me, one of the most important Blossoms in the separation process. Because I tend to glorify their time together as a "good old days". I even had such feelings, such as "I was never happier than with him."
Vervain helped him if I still "great" place.
6th Had I not only ...
I was wondering what I could have been better to do ... And I did so partly blame yourself if what happened to me. Pine help here. I initially could not believe that I could use a flower against guilt. But when I started to look for explanations as to why I was leaving was ... Pine was necessary in any case! And me the way to further development has been cleared.
7th If the deep despair from time to time comes back, ...
if you just feel to know no further and do not know exactly why helps Sweet Chestnut .
8th Although the separation when I want, but will always fickle?
then helps to strengthen Scleranthus the decision. For me it was so that I could actually say quite clearly that the separation is good for me. Nevertheless, I returned it to me sometimes required, would prefer to call ... Scleranthus helped me to stay with my decision. In order to arm myself against influences from outside, I took more Walnut also already a flower that is suitable for heartbreak, because it helps in transition. And separation is always a transitional phase.
9th I always fall inside the same guy? Always make the same mistakes again?
In my case, I believed him again. The only reason I was now sunk so low. Chestnut Bud helps to learn from experience and do not always make the same mistake.
10th What he probably does now? How well he's going?
Although I was leaving, and my ex-boyfriend really incredible is hurtful to me to behave, I've been for a while, worried about him. Absurd, I know ... Nevertheless, I knew he was in a difficult phase of life and was very masochistic way stretch even pity. Red Chestnut me here has helped incredibly. The replacement of a lot to me so much easier .... after two days of taking I felt that I was already over it. However: as it turned out, but I needed the mixture over an extended period of time. After all, I put it off, came back the same feelings.
11th He / she is doing is even any good ...
When feelings arise, in the sense that the problem the other can understand, yes, and the knowledge that he deals with the situation (or similar) would inflict more damage than anything else ... urgent Chicory is a must!
And besides
mixture was always in my Star of Bethlehem in it. This is the blossom and trauma here is probably not a question. A trauma of separation or unrequited love for sure!
came after a while even to Wild Oat. This helps put flowers over a long period of time to find your own way. Just me it happened so that I go my own way and certainly not after so long a relationship did
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