Emily: I am delighted that I have this interview may lead to the sensitive issue of bullying with you. Can you tell us first give some information about yourself?
Lia: Hi Emily. My name Lia Addams is and I'm 20 years old.
Emily: In a preliminary You told me that you are a victim of bullying in real life. Can you tell us more about the history of what happened?
Lia: It all started that I from the 7th Class went to high school. Unfortunately, I made it only up to the 9th grade. I did the math with no more and had to make the 10th grade, graduated from a normal secondary school in my former hometown. The very first day I felt like I struck against hatred and contempt on the part of students. The eyes and the far too loud Flüstereien. "Look at the times," "What's that?". time I was a goth at right-minded people and shoppers to make clear that I found there are offensive. Threats, sting land, even Handgreiflichleiten were then the norm. A year in hell!
Emily: How was it then? After school, the problem stopped, unfortunately not.
Lia: After school started my training as a social assistant. The went on for two years and everything went great! I found a friend with whom I could talk about everything and had a wonderful time. After the training, we wanted to jointly make the training as an educator and as it began. The classes have been thrown together again. From moment to moment I was not for my alleged girlfriend interesting. I would can cope with, weakening any friendship at some point from, but that it was not even done. suddenly began to whisper to the new student, when I showed up, laughed gleefully and looked in my direction. I was more courageous than the time (in school) and went to them, for the record and asked what it was that. "Oh, nothing!" she laughed and left me standing there. one day I came into the class room and on my desk was a package. When I opened it, it was clear what was going on. In the packet was a razor blade with a note "Have fun with it!". Something piled up. Things that are not could have known, were used against me. Secrets I had never given up, suddenly stood on boards or were retold with a laugh. Finally, and deep scratches on my car, thumbtacks on my chair, "accidentally" poured drinks on me .... it you can probably imagine, my then girlfriend had every little thing I had ever entrusted to her retold and used against me. From the cracks in the former bully time on parental issues to intimate things. I wanted to challenge her, but it never got an answer "why", still not to the question. I dropped out after a year of training. I was nervous at the end, when even the teacher laughed at my request for information only.
Emily: In a preliminary You told me that you are a victim of bullying in real life. Can you tell us more about the history of what happened?
Lia: It all started that I from the 7th Class went to high school. Unfortunately, I made it only up to the 9th grade. I did the math with no more and had to make the 10th grade, graduated from a normal secondary school in my former hometown. The very first day I felt like I struck against hatred and contempt on the part of students. The eyes and the far too loud Flüstereien. "Look at the times," "What's that?". time I was a goth at right-minded people and shoppers to make clear that I found there are offensive. Threats, sting land, even Handgreiflichleiten were then the norm. A year in hell!
Emily: How was it then? After school, the problem stopped, unfortunately not.
Lia: After school started my training as a social assistant. The went on for two years and everything went great! I found a friend with whom I could talk about everything and had a wonderful time. After the training, we wanted to jointly make the training as an educator and as it began. The classes have been thrown together again. From moment to moment I was not for my alleged girlfriend interesting. I would can cope with, weakening any friendship at some point from, but that it was not even done. suddenly began to whisper to the new student, when I showed up, laughed gleefully and looked in my direction. I was more courageous than the time (in school) and went to them, for the record and asked what it was that. "Oh, nothing!" she laughed and left me standing there. one day I came into the class room and on my desk was a package. When I opened it, it was clear what was going on. In the packet was a razor blade with a note "Have fun with it!". Something piled up. Things that are not could have known, were used against me. Secrets I had never given up, suddenly stood on boards or were retold with a laugh. Finally, and deep scratches on my car, thumbtacks on my chair, "accidentally" poured drinks on me .... it you can probably imagine, my then girlfriend had every little thing I had ever entrusted to her retold and used against me. From the cracks in the former bully time on parental issues to intimate things. I wanted to challenge her, but it never got an answer "why", still not to the question. I dropped out after a year of training. I was nervous at the end, when even the teacher laughed at my request for information only.
Emily: That was a bad time. And it is terrible that you have received no help from teachers. You made a therapy. Has it helped you?
Lia: It was a three-month inpatient treatment group and individual interviews, sports and similar activities. But in the first days I was not all scary. The therapy was developed as a children's garden, so I felt. Painting classes, handicrafts, sports day .... how should I help? The group discussions were a horror. Each problem had to be present and face the criticism of others. I told them about my case from all sides and I was fired from because it was not a problem, I only had no ass in the pants. but I wanted to justify any attempt to make it to the other patients understand how hard this my mind games were classmates, bounced off them. I was the youngest, then 19, the other started from 35 Sure, they took me seriously. When I got louder and then said it would downplay ne cheek my problem, I was thrown by a 60-year-old man with Agressionsproblemen against a wall. And what did the therapist? The sat and took notes. I later went to them, wanted to know why no one intervenes. "This is all part of therapy!" The highlight was when a patient came to the same age with whom I am super understood. We went for a walk. When we returned, we were told we would have to go, because relationships between patients are not allowed. which I waved with my engagement ring around front of his face and pointed out that my friend visited me every weekend. The other patients had told the psychologist that we have a relationship, we would even sneak out at night. Then we had to vacate our rooms. The other patients looked on with folded arms as we packed. "Now here is little room for real problems" pimped then the "rapist"! Whether it helped? No!
Emily: If you fellow patients verbally and physically attacked, a therapist must engage properly. I also think that the therapy was probably the wrong one. It is still good, get professional help. How did you feel after this "failure"?
Lia: first I was just angry hurt, with the nerves at the end, the horror of humanity generally. This then was pure hatred. It later grew the power to make myself against something resistant and anyone too close to let these things.
Emily: Where Have you got support?
Lia: My parents and my friend were there for me after this time, and were more helpful than any doctor in the world.
Emily: How ran out of business?
Lia: I wanted from this thing can not mess up the future and applied immediately to a new education. I was accepted and am now finished my first year. A nice class, and even friends I have found.
Emily: How would you assess the events now somewhat later?
Lia: It still hurts to think of the past. It was so cruel what has been done to me. I could go through the whole again, I would - I believe - respond differently, maybe even laugh about it. But I was just not strong enough.
Emily: Do you have a personal advice that you would like to give to others the way?
Lia: One should never give up. No matter how hard it is is a way it always so complicated it may be. Defend you, whether it is a good countered spell or to you not to put themselves in danger, an appointment with the director, police, etc. Do not let your life, you make something up, because that is exactly what you want to reach people with bullying.
Emily: Thank you Lia that you speak so openly about this subject / write, I find that very brave. For the future, I wish you much strength and good luck!
Lia: It still hurts to think of the past. It was so cruel what has been done to me. I could go through the whole again, I would - I believe - respond differently, maybe even laugh about it. But I was just not strong enough.
Emily: Do you have a personal advice that you would like to give to others the way?
Lia: One should never give up. No matter how hard it is is a way it always so complicated it may be. Defend you, whether it is a good countered spell or to you not to put themselves in danger, an appointment with the director, police, etc. Do not let your life, you make something up, because that is exactly what you want to reach people with bullying.
Emily: Thank you Lia that you speak so openly about this subject / write, I find that very brave. For the future, I wish you much strength and good luck!
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